Hey guys!
It’s been a while since I actually took some time to sit down and write something on here. I’ve been super focused on booting up my YouTube channel that’s associated with this blog (the link will be down below!). However, I recently had a truly upsetting experience that I felt the need to share, and I couldn’t think of a better place to do so than here! For those who know me and have been following/hearing about this blog since its conception, you know I started it to document my natural hair journey. That journey, although still ongoing, has already taught me so much about myself, the world, and my heritage. It’s been so empowering and has taught me to love myself in ways I never thought possible. Most women prior to beginning their journey to going natural know that with each day comes unpredictable hurdles to overcome and battles to win; but you count on your loved ones and others in the community to help you make it through the war. I think this is the main reason why my experience at the salon was particularly hurtful: These supposed allies turned out to be enemies in disguise, and although it was for a brief moment, they made me doubt my progress and growth.
I initially had planned to type out the story and describe the exchanges at length; but as I started, I realized that doing so felt petty and would go against the entire reason I’m making this post. I will say that in summary, comments were made alluding to the idea that I don’t care about my natural hair and I was really bad at taking care of it. The comments that the employees made to me were extremely hurtful. Like it bothered me for a few days you Guys! That’s how bad it was. If you’ve been following my journey, you know that one of the things I’ve been most excited and proud about was how I’ve learned to really care for my hair and lost the fear I had of wearing it out by itself. Their comments totally discounted the progress I had made and all of the growth I have achieved and made me feel so, so small. Guys, in life, whether it’s natural hair, your career goals, your life goals, there will most likely be someone who thinks they know you and your life, and try to bring you down. DONT LET THEM! They 10000% don’t deserve to have that kind of control over you! You’re allowed to feel sad/hurt for a little (you are a human after all, not a robot!) but then use that as motivation to prove them wrong and KEEP GRINDING. Since that visit to the salon, you best believe that I have been loading UP on that coconut oil (major key) and the creams and the lotions so I can walk back in that place for my next trim with a huge, beautiful, and moisturized fro! I also realized I really want to make sure I do more natural hair care on the YouTube channel so be looking out for those videos! 

Another smaller lesson is to make sure you do your own research when it comes to your hair! The salon was quick to tell me how dry my hair was and how I was bad at taking care of it, but not a single person asked me what products I was using or suggested some different options in regards to how to fix my problems. Being a natural hair blogger, I shortly realized (with the help of a fellow curlfriend) my problem was the products I was using. I have thick, high density, low porosity hair, which already makes it harder for it to stay moisturized (mind you NONE of these terms were mentioned or discussed at my appointment) and my main moisturizer I was using had glycerin pretty high in the ingredient list! If what I am saying sounds completely foreign to you, you should check out this naturally curly article that is extremely helpful and inspired my most recent video. So I’ve recently started using glycerin free products and it’s been working Wonders! The video I made shows you the quick and easy tests mentioned in the article that can help you determine your hair density and porosity, and in turn make better product and styling choices for your hair. The website gives you some great product options, but if you want to know specifically what I’m using for my low porosity high density hair, leave comments below!